THE AFFAIR RECOVERY ACCELERATOR
Move from heartbreak to healing after an affair — calm your mind, reclaim your energy, and strengthen your relationship, together, in just 4 weeks
WELCOME
If you’re reading this, you probably feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and unsure how to move forward after an affair disrupted your life. Sleepless nights, racing thoughts, anxiety, guilt, or anger may dominate your days. You’ve tried therapy or self-help strategies, yet the emotional intensity keeps resurfacing, and trust in yourself—or your partner—remains fragile.
You are in the right place. I can help!
The affair has shattered BOTH of you.
If you were betrayed …
It began with a subtle stirring in your stomach and a cautionary whisper in your head – But the moment your worst fears were confirmed, the powerful mix of emotions was unlike anything you have ever experienced.
Time stopped, as the life seemed to drain from every cell in your body … before being filled with an overpowering mix of rage, confusion, panic, and despair. and now?
There are no words to quite describe the soreness you still carry in your heart and the intrusive thoughts of another woman that start playing out of nowhere. Your mind continuously wonders if your husband is actually telling you the truth. The weighted cloud of anxiety and despair hangs over your head, threatening to take you down at any moment.
Your mind cycles continuously through conflicting thoughts -
"I love you." ↔ "I hate you."
"Don't leave me." ↔ “Get the heck out of here”
“I can't live without you” ↔ "I can't stand the sight of you."
"I need every detail." ↔ "Stop, I can't hear one more detail."
"I still love you in spite of what you did..." ↔ "I'll make sure our kids hate you for what you've done to us."
And your body is confused: One minute you feel energized and ready to take on the day and the next you are holding in tears as you rush out of the office at noon.
If you did the betraying …
The emotional storm hits you, too as the secret spills out.
And in that moment, your world flipped upside down. Relief that the truth is finally out colliding with the crushing reality of the pain you caused. Guilt and shame slammed into you like a tidal wave, leaving you disoriented.
You watch her anguish and feel powerless—devastated at the hurt you inflicted, yet frustrated that nothing you say or do ever seems enough. You swing between shutting down and the anger that rises when she keeps asking questions you don’t know how to answer.
Your mind won’t stop. It cycles through confusion, regret, and self-loathing:
“I can’t believe I did this.” ↔ “I deserve her anger.”
“I want forgiveness.” ↔ “I can’t forgive myself.”
“I need space to think.” ↔ “I just want her to stop asking.”
Your body feels it, too. One moment you’re numb, almost robotic, going through the motions. The next, tears burn your eyes in the office bathroom, your chest tight with shame.
And the worst part?
Time hasn’t fixed this. The pain hasn’t faded. The clarity hasn’t come. You’re stuck in the swirl of your own emotions, desperate for a way to make it right, or at least survive it.
What if you could take structured, practical steps to process and release intense emotions efficiently, so you can regain focus, clarity, and emotional composure—without getting stuck in overwhelm?
This program is designed for anyone impacted by an affair, whether you were betrayed or were the one who had the affair. After an affair, both partners can be on high alert—betrayed partners may feel constant fear and vigilance, while the partner who had the affair may be consumed by guilt and anxiety. To find true healing, both of you need practical tools to calm your nervous system and respond with control rather than react out of stress and that is exactly what the Affair Recovery Accelerator will help you achieve.
The Affair Recovery Accelerator gives you a self-paced, high-impact roadmap to move from emotional chaos to calm, distraction to clarity, and reactive stress to resilience—so you can operate at your highest level personally and professionally, while healing your relationship.
WHY THIS PROGRAM MATTERS
After an affair, the fallout isn’t just emotional — it’s physiological. Your nervous system is on high alert, your mind replays events, and your ability to think clearly or feel safe is compromised. Both partners can get stuck in cycles of hyper-awareness, guilt, shame, or anxiety.
True recovery doesn’t come from forcing yourself to “move on” or suppressing emotions. It comes from structured, practical strategies: regulating your nervous system, interrupting unhelpful thought patterns, strengthening internal communication, and learning to interact with your partner from a calm place so you can work together to build a sense of safety and trust. This is a place where most traditional programs fall short … and why we created this essential program for you.
WHAT YOU'LL GAIN
The Affair Recovery Accelerator is a 4-week self-paced program with three live group coaching calls (one per month) that teaches actionable strategies to regulate your nervous system, reduce triggers, and rebuild trust in yourself and your relationship.
Recovering from an affair is painful—for both partners. Whether you were betrayed or were the one who had the affair, the emotional intensity can feel impossible to navigate. This 4-module program offers a safe, guided path to calm your mind, restore connection, and reclaim your life.
MODULE 1
Calm Your Brain and Nervous System by ‘Letting Go’
Implement strategies to quickly soothe your overactive nervous system so you can sleep better, think clearly, and regain energy.
For the betrayed: Release anger, fear, and hypervigilance so you can stop getting stuck in affair-related thought loops and start feeling like yourself again.
For the partner who had the affair: Let go of guilt and shame in ways that help you respond thoughtfully rather than shutting down or responding in anger.
MODULE 2
Master Your Attention, Free Your Mind
Apply practical tools to calm spiraling thoughts, shift attention from worst-case thinking, and create mental space for safety and balance.
For the betrayed: Break free from obsessive thoughts and anxiety about the affair, giving yourself space to focus at work, home, and in your relationship.
For the partner who had the affair: Stop using escape behaviours to ease the guilt loops and rumination and learn how to shift your focus from worst-case thinking using strategies that support your healing.
MODULE 3
Calm Your Brain and Nervous System with ‘Intentional Language’
Break free from rigid thinking, reclaim clarity, and strengthen confidence in how you think and communicate.
For the betrayed: Transform self-critical or blaming thoughts into language that strengthens resilience and emotional stability.
For the partner who had the affair: Replace self-shaming or defensive language with words that help build trust and facilitate emotional repair in your relationship.
MODULE 4
Calm Your Brain and Nervous System with ‘Loving and Kind Communication’
Engage in daily nervous-system exercises to communicate intentionally, deepen trust, and maintain calm under pressure.
For the betrayed: Learn to express yourself clearly and calmly, even when emotions run high, to strengthen your sense of safety and understanding.
For the partner who had the affair: Practice responding with vulnerability and honesty, while setting boundaries to rebuild connection and mutual emotional safety.
+ A BONUS SLEEP MEDITATION
WHAT PARTICIPANTS SAY
"Dr. Haywood’s calm and practical approach helped me process intense emotions efficiently. The strategies are actionable and I’ve been able to restore composure while strengthening my relationship."
"This program is well-structured and delivers tangible results. Even working on the modules individually, I can feel a positive impact on both my own mindset and our relationship."
“The tools I’ve learned allow me to regain control over my thoughts and interactions. We’re communicating better, and I feel more in control of my emotions rather than reacting automatically.”
"I am more relaxed. We are laughing together more and that feels great. I feel really positive about the progress I’ve made individually and even better about the progress as a couple."
YOUR INVESTMENT
When you join, you'll get:
Four self-paced modules with actionable exercises and guided strategies + a bonus kickstart module
Each module is strategically placed and intentionally designed to equip you and your partner with the key skills that you need to soothe your overworked nervous system from the PTSD you are experiencing, so you can finally relax, sleep better, and begin true physical and emotional healing.
Full-color workbooks for each module to embed learning and track progress
These workbooks are complete with guided exercises to help solidify the teachings in each module and strategically guide you through the implementation of new skills that will help you calm your brain and nervous system, and heal fully after the affair.
Three monthly live group coaching calls for you and your partner with Dr. Shawn Haywood
Get your questions answered, learn key skills that will help you feel like yourself again and surround yourself with the most supportive crew. If you are unable to attend the call, you may submit your questions in advance and a replay will be available in your portal following each call! Calls are held on the first Tuesday of each month at 10am ET.
One downloadable guided meditation
A downloadable guided meditation to help you release the racing thoughts, anxiety, and emotional heaviness that can make restful sleep difficult after an affair.
TOTAL VALUE: $2097
Your investment today: JUST $597
For context, our standard one-on-one coaching programs start at $8,500 — making this program a high-impact, efficient first step toward meaningful emotional recovery. Whether you were betrayed or had the affair, you’ll gain practical, results-driven strategies that deliver measurable improvements while also giving you a preview of the deeper work available in our full coaching programs.
TAKE ACTION AND LET'S GET STARTED
The Affair Recovery Accelerator gives you structure, tools, and guidance to calm your mind, regulate your nervous system, and begin moving forward with clarity and focus. You can continue feeling stuck in emotional loops — or take the first step toward strategic, effective healing today. Ready to get started?
Enrollment is limited. Secure your spot to begin your journey today.
P.S. Even if your partner isn’t ready to join, starting this work on your own will help you regulate your emotions, reduce stress, and respond with clarity — skills that will translate directly into improved focus, decision-making, and relationships, at home and at work.
Dr. Shawn Haywood has over two decades of experience helping individuals and couples navigate life’s most difficult challenges, including affair recovery. Trained as a traditional therapist, she quickly shifted to coaching to offer a more efficient, results-oriented approach. With her calm, structured, and compassionate style, she equips high-performing couples with practical tools to process emotions, regain clarity, and rebuild resilient, connected relationships, helping couples recover from infidelity in a fraction of the time of traditional marriage counselling programs.
