AFFAIR TRIAGE PROGRAM
Calm Your Mind, Gain Clarity, and Rebuild Trust in 10 Weeks
A Comprehensive Affair Recovery Program for Couples & Individuals
Expert-Led AND Self-Guided Options Available!
Are You Ready To:
Feel the relief of getting out of your head
Slow your mind and think more clearly
Understand why he cheated and how to heal that dynamic, so you are both safeguarded in the future
Feel calm and increasing emotional stability
Begin sleeping and eating normally again
Be able to work normally and with focus again
Get rid of the confusion and constant questions
Begin trusting again
Determine if you want to stay married or not
Let go of the heavy and overwhelming emotions (anger, betrayal, resentment, grief, fear, anxiety, panic)
Communicate calmly
Begin reconnecting
Affair Triage - THE CORE CURRICULUM
Intro Module: The Kickstart
The Kickstart module will give you the key tools you need for a smooth and successful recovery.
Module 1: Acceptance
Learn how to move into a state of acceptance, begin to support one another with love, master the do's and don't of affair recovery and get a deeply healing stress dissolving meditation.
Module 2: Release Painful Emotions
Learn about the process of surrender and how to begin practicing the process so that you can free yourself from the painful emotions associated with affair-recovery.
Module 3: Master Your Attention
Learn how to master your attention so that you can move from being overcome with intrusive thoughts, to calming your mind, body and spirit.
Module 4: The Nature of an Affair
Understand why the affair happened and what you can do as a couple to safeguard your relationship in the future.
Module 5: Lay Down Emotional Weapons
Understand the learned habits that are unconsciously keeping you from deeply re-connecting with your partner and learn how to lay down your Emotional Weapons so that you can live in harmony.
Module 6: Powerful Communication
Learn tools to establish vulnerable & effective communication in your relationship and abolish projections for deeper connection.
Module 7: Intimacy
Learn about physical Intimacy now & how to deepen intimacy throughout your marriage.
Module 8: To Stay or To Go
Learn when and how to get clear on whether to stay, or to go, and feel confident and supported in your decision.
Module 10: Wrap Up
Learn how to thrive for a lifetime
3 WAYS TO TRIAGE:
Self Study
Want to work through the material on your own? This 10-week Affair TRIAGE Recovery Program will give you:
Access to 10 affair-specific modules that have been specifically designed to help you heal after an affair
BONUS if you register within the next week, you will get lifetime access to this material.
Course + Group Support
This 3-month program includes everything in the self-study triage program PLUS:
an orientation call to set your journey up for success
2 group coaching calls/month for each of you and your partner!
Complete Triage
If you are ready to jump in and completely transform your life and your marriage, this option includes:
10 affair-specific modules
6 individual sessions each
3 couples sessions
1 orientation call (2 if needed)
2 group calls each (2 per month)
A private group of clients for men and for women to have support and community
Access to our expert team to answer any questions
4 months in the program
Not sure which is most appropriate? Let's chat and see which is most suited to you, your needs and goals!
Now, if you are experiencing the aftermath of an affair –
you can probably relate
There are no words to quite describe the sickening feeling that lingers in your gut.
Or the images of another woman that have become etched into your mind.
You feel exhausted, anguished, confused and beat down by the end of the day –
but when your head finally hits the pillow, you can’t sleep.
The days feel long – and the nighttime seems never ending.
and the worst part is...
after all that you have experienced –
you now feel like you are going crazy
You sit down with the intention of responding to your emails, but 30 minutes pass before you realize you have gotten lost in Facebook, scrolling through images of your husband’s mistress, and rehearsing the messages you could send to her to make her feel the damage she has caused
You try to sleep at night but your thoughts are flooded with never ending visions of the affair that leave you uncontrollably sobbing and wondering if your mind will ever be clear again and asking questions that seem to constantly go unanswered
You promise yourself that you will go straight home after work, but with each turn, you find yourself choosing a detour that takes you past his gym, giving you some peace of mind, but making you 10 minutes late to pick the kids up from the sitter
You feel like you are losing your mind – and for good reason.
here's the reason
an affair can leave you feeling like you are going crazy and a shell of the vibrant woman you used to know
Your brain is designed to be aware of potential dangers in order to keep you safe and an affair disrupts your sense of emotional safety.
Whether you participated in the affair, or you experienced the affair, you have undoubtedly just experienced one of the most traumatic events of your life.
This can leave your brain stuck in a state of heightened sensitivity where your thoughts are all consuming and actions are out of character.
If you can relate, you are in the right place and we can help.
You are not crazy!
Your brain is stuck in a hypervigilant state
In order to heal, you need to learn how to CALM your mind and turn down the volume so that you can RECOVER and build a relationship that is STRONGER than you ever thought possible.
Our Triage Program will show you how.
Our Triage Program works with:
The neurology of your brain
The physiology of your body
The essence of your being
to help you move FROM hurt and lost
TO calm and clear
HERE'S WHAT'S INCLUDED IN THE COMPLETE PROGRAM!
Individual Affair Strategy Call
Orientation: You will meet with your coach to create a plan that will ensure you are clear on how you can get the most out of this program
Group Empowerment Sessions
You will receive a total of 6 group calls with other women (and your husband will receive 6 group coaching calls with other men) . This is an opportunity for you to have your questions answered by Dr. Shawn and her team, to be supported through specific scenarios and to learn from other women who are also working to heal after infidelity.
Private Women’s Facebook Group
You will be welcomed into the most loving and supportive space on the internet, surrounded by coaches who understand your experience and other powerful women who are also committed to healing. Your partner will be in his own private group, along with other men where he too will be loved and supported in his journey.
"I look so forward to the group calls. And setting weekly goals and celebrating together with a group of woman who have become so special to me. No one thinks their spouse will ever cheat and no one really understands that pain. But WE all do. A club no one wants to be part of. But it’s been wonderful to know I don’t have to walk this journey alone, that they are there to celebrate my wins and hold my hand in my struggles. – BM
Expert Support
Within your private Facebook group, you will have access to a team of master affair recovery specialists. Within the group you are encouraged to ask questions, get support and find inspiration.
Accountability Systems
Each week you will receive simple, but powerful prompts within your Facebook group that will help keep you focused and accountable to your healing journey
Exclusive Access to our Affair Recovery Process
You will receive access to online training modules that will walk you, step-by-step, through our affair recovery triage process. This is a unique approach that has helped hundreds of couples over the past 25 years. Over the course of 10 weeks, you will learn multiple tools that will help you: calm yourself quickly, begin connecting with your partner and gain freedom from painful emotions.
Bonuses!!!
When you register for the Complete Program, you will also receive 6 additional private calls!
Two couples calls
Two private calls for you
Two private calls for your partner
and...
Get 2 extra weeks in our group!
This means you (and your partner) get 2 extra weeks of access to our team of experts, prompts for accelerating healing and extra group calls to answer your questions.
Psst we also have a Self-Guided OR Group Option available if that feels more comfy and supportive!
If you are currently feeling hurt and confused, I want you to know that hope is closer than you may think.
Believe it or not, your affair can become the best thing that ever happened in your marriage. We can show you the way.
By the end of this program you will:
Understand why the affair occurred and how to heal that dynamic - so you are both safeguarded from affairs in the future
Know how to calm your mind and stop intrusive thoughts
Have clarity about what you truly want for yourself and your marriage
Begin to establish unbreakable trust and safety within your relationship
Be well on your way to rebuilding a marriage that feels more deeply connected than ever before
Possess skills that will lay the foundation for effective communication
If you are dedicated to healing, you can 100% have all of that AND MORE
We have Expert-Led, Group and Self-Guided options available depending on what feels most supportive. If you are interested in learning more and seeing if one of them is a good fit, I would love to chat with you!
Here is what some of the couples we work with have to say
These beauties were in your shoes just 3 months ago
Here is what some of the couples we work with have had to say
These beauties were in your shoes just 3 months ago
“I was feeling as though my relationship was falling apart and hopeless. I couldn’t see any positives and just knew it was a matter of time.
I’m feeling hopeful now. I see progress in both my partner and myself. We are opening up more to each other and implementing the tools we have learned and we have a much more solid foundation than we had before.
Our communication has gotten better and we are able to have hard and uncomfortable conversations. Also we are making more of an effort to respect and honor each other.”
- Jessica H.
“Before I started this program I was angry and broken. I spent my day completely focused on the fact that my husband of 28 years had been cheating on me for three years and I had been clueless.
Now I am no longer angry, I’m not broken, I feel like a human again. I spend my day focused on making myself happier. And when my husband comes home from work, I try to make his evening brighter as well.
My two biggest wins have been being able to stop jabbing and arguing with my husband about having an affair and actually being able to see a continuing future with this man. Another win has been just for myself to learn that I count too in this relationship.
And so now I say “yes” when in the past I would have said “no.”
- Mandy B.
“Before finding the Reimagine Love program, some days it was really hard for me to get out of bed. But no matter what I would always get up, put a smile on my face and do whatever it took to get through the day. Trying to figure out how to fix what is broken inside without knowing what that even was.
Working within the program for the past few months, I have been focusing on how the speedbumps life has presented to me over the course of my lifetime and how they have affected my relationships. I am learning to embrace the possibilities of loving myself and my life the way that I want it to be, to find my happiness. I know that I will never be able to truly love someone if I am not able to fall deeply in love with myself. I should not have to convince or prove to anyone that I am worthy of being loved, so I am starting to do the things that fill my spirit: deeper conversations with those I love, speaking kind to myself, reading and finding a group of women who are like minded.
I know at the end of the journey that I won't ever have all of the answers, but I will have better tools in my tool box to help me find my place of happiness and pure joy. I will be closer to being able to wake up every morning knowing that I am chosen and that I am more than good enough.”
- Kathy
“Words couldn’t even begin to describe the pain I felt to my core. How could someone who said they love me do that…to me and our family.
The images haunted my every thought and my dreams turned to nightmares. I was barely functioning and the energy I did have was all poured into our kids.
I filed for divorce and we were 6 months into the divorce process when we found this program. [...] We pushed all court dates out and began the program.
And because of this program, this week I emailed my attorney and we are submitting a 6 month reconciliation with the courts, letting the judge know we are working towards reconciliation and therefore removing all deadlines and court dates. This is HUGE!
Because of this program we are turning our marriage on its head and addressing the issues present to therefore create a deep and connected marriage we both desire.”
- B.M.
I want you to know that you WILL have that too. You are worthy and deserving of finding that same sense of calm, clarity and trust – in yourself and in your marriage.
Here's the tough truth about affair recovery:
What you practice is made permanent
and the longer you stay stuck in a hypervigilant state, the more difficult it can become to break free of that pattern.
Our program is designed to help you turn down the volume on this hypervigilant state and begin the process of deep healing.
The affair recovery process requires a highly specific approach, one that we have put together in this Affair Triage Program.
Getting Started:
Schedule a Breakthrough Call
Schedule a breakthrough call to discuss your situation and goals. I will help you and your partner get clear about the root issues in your marriage, why the affair happened and help you leave the call with a crystal-clear plan on how to move forward toward happiness and wholeness. I will let you know if The Affair Triage Program is a good fit to help you achieve your goals (or if there is another option that would be more suitable).
Enroll
If both of you are ready to commit to this journey, the next step is to enroll! If your partner is not on board, but you are, you are still encouraged to enroll in the program on your own.
Get Started
Once you have completed your paperwork, you will gain access to your modules and resources, will be welcomed into your respective Facebook groups and will receive instructions on how to set up your coaching sessions if you are enrolled in the Complete Triage or Group Study Options!
FAQs
Here are some questions we commonly hear:
What if my partner/husband/wife doesn’t want to participate in the program?
After your initial breakthrough call, we set up a call to talk with your partner about the program and his/her goals.
If you need support bringing up the idea of participating in this call, we can give you a simple script and some suggestions to make this part of the process smooth and stress-free.
This program is ideally completed together, even if you are leaning towards divorce. However, if your partner is not on board, you can 100% work through this program on your own – and in fact, we encourage you not to postpone your healing journey.
Also, it is not uncommon for partners to jump on board later. This time in your marriage can be overwhelming and sometimes husbands just need a little more time.
I am fairly certain that I want a divorce. Can your program still help me?
Yes!
While the large majority of the couples that go through our program rebuild beautiful marriages, we have also helped many couples work through a loving parting of ways. We love to see couples be able to grow together – AND sometimes the most generous thing you can do for yourself and one another is to learn how to lovingly part ways.
We’ve already tried therapy. How will this be different?
We coach from a place of love and compassion for both you and your partner. We do not point fingers, blame or shame either party. You will both feel loved and supported, thoroughly and equally, throughout the entire duration of our time together. We also utilize a unique combination of tools and techniques to help you heal on the level of body, mind and heart.
How do I know whether or not this is the right fit for us?
Schedule a breakthrough session!
This is an opportunity for us to decide if our program is the right fit for you AND for you to decide if the program feels like a good fit for what you need!
We always want to make sure we are offering the right support to meet your needs.
When are the live calls?
Live calls will take place on Zoom and will take place on the First and Third Tuesday of the month. The Women’s Call will be at 12 EST and The Men’s Call will be at 4pm EST. Recordings will be posted in your respective, private Facebook group after the call.
What if I can’t make one of the group calls?
If you are enrolled in the Group Study or Complete Triage Programs, you will have access to all call recordings. All calls will be posted in the Private Facebook group for you to watch. If you have questions but can’t attend the call, feel free to drop them in the group and we will respond.
What if I have a question between calls?
Feel free to drop them in your private Facebook group and one of our coaches will respond. Women will be in one private group, and men in another. These private Facebook groups are a great place to ask questions and get support throughout the duration of your program!